Posted: 2017-12-07 15:09
Dear confused, not a 655% sure, but I 8767 ve seen someone go thru the same thing and honestly and I hope not for your heart sake, but honestly it sounds like he has someone else on the side, and he says things like your the one but not now, for the simple fact that he will try this new someone and if it doesn 8767 t work out between him and this new person, then he has you on as plan B, and please once again I 8767 m not trying to fill ur head with neg stuff just want u to keep your guard up so that u don 8767 t get hurt.
I wish I knew what to tell you to do but I am still going through the pain myself so I haven 8767 t quite figured out how to solve that part. I don 8767 t know if you are religious or not but I can tell you that God doesn 8767 t take something out of your life not to put something better in it 8767 s place. Now these may just be words to you now but if you repeat it to yourself enough and remind yourself everyday of all the wonderful things you can do without your ex than eventually you will see that all things happen for a reason and he wasn 8767 t meant to be in your life. As far as continuing to be there for him I would say follow your heart and only make decisions based on how YOU feel about it. I don 8767 t even know you but I know you will be ok smile you deserve to!
My boyfriend/Partner father of my only child has broken up with me after 8 YEARS!!!! I 8767 ve never been able to let him go. I 8776 m very independent, I can take care of myself, but I 8776 m scared to be out on my own with the thought that I can never do things with him like I loved to!! He 8767 s never been the good boyfriend, he 8767 s never been affectionate/romantic. I should 8767 ve walked away a LONG time ago, but my love has always been so strong! He 8767 s left so many bruises and scars in my heart and my mind that it 8767 s hard to ever trust a man in my life..I 8767 m traumatized I feel as if I know how a man THINKS!!! I 8767 ve left him with a deep scar as well that was caused 8 years ago, but that 8767 s pretty much the only negative memory he 8767 ll ever have of me!! As far as good memories with him, there isn 8767 t that many, but I still love him! Is there something better out there for me? I dont know.. but I will hope that my journey to find out isn 8767 t very painful, stressfull and long. =(
While I said all of this to him, I cried and and did not look at him once. I just wanted to say my peace without seeing his face because I knew it would just make it even that more difficult. After I was finished, I looked at him and saw tears in his eyes. Never in my life have I seen him cry for anything. I remember he told me he didn 8767 t even cry for his father 8767 s funeral, that he never cries, and doesn 8767 t remember the last time he did. And to see him in tears makes me realize that I touched his heart and that I still meant so much to him, regardless of the circumstances. It also made me realize that he is human we are human and there are just some things that you cannot control. We left on that note and gave each other a long hug and wished each other the best as we embraced each other for the last time. I hugged him tight, for I knew this was the last time I would be able to. He got out of my car and then I drove off, looking back at him in the rearview mirror for one last time.
I love all these quotes. Now, 66 months after the break up, I am feeling better than ever and believing every single quote. I sometimes wonder if true love is really out there, but I also have nothing to worry: I 8767 m 75 years old, and have a whole life in front of me. Life is what you make of it, and I think that all the heart ache really has a purpose: Development, and also Rationality: remember that there are always worse things than what happend to you. If people can survive horrible things as death, diseases etc, you can survive a break up.
Theres this martial arts training called 8775 the iron shirt 8776 and what it is, is every 75 minutes(or how ever long the training calls for) someone will hit(and i mean hit) the trainee across the chest with a broom stick. The first time it 8767 s done, The trainee would scream in pain, rolling on the ground, dreading the next time this has to happen. But when the trainer goes to hit him, in the last 75 mins of his training, the trainee doesn 8767 t even budge. It 8767 s not that it doesn 8767 t cause pain, he just got used to it.
May, was harder, after about 8 weeks of not hearing from him since he had broken up w me, i called him broke the no contact rule, it was good in a way, because it trew me out of the denial stage and realize it was really over. I cried alot, talked to friends and did alot of what this site suggests which is to take care of myself, reconnected with friends and family, have an active life and challenge myself.
It completely sucks losing someone you have a connection with 8 months ago I broke up with my boyfriend of nearly 7 years. I miss him every day but sometimes your heart rules your head and in the end you 8767 ve gotta just look after yourself. We weren 8767 t right for each other so that 8767 s my justification and I 8767 m sticking to it. Your girl sounds like an unfaithful ho (no offence) so that can be your justification whatever your justification is, remind yourself of this when you start missing her/wanting to text her. Also trust your instincts the ones that told you to leave her in the first place.
I had to initiate a break up with an amazing women that I care for greatly. Although highly compatible in many ways, I just could not see her as 8775 the one 8776 for some reason and I could not commit. On the other hand, she was genuinely committed to me, totalling accepting of the many peculiarities and faults I have, and eager to support me in so many ways. I fully believe she was very much in love with me.
It 8767 s hard getting over a break up, and/or realizing it just won 8767 t work out. I 8767 m going through that right now So, every time you think of this person, replace it with a thought of what you will do with the next person you go out with. Make mental plans, do anything, but don 8767 t think of the other person. If you are religious, then every time you think of that person, start praying. It 8767 s hard at first, but if you let your mind control your thoughts, then it will drive you insane!! Read, or listen to 8775 The Power of Now 8776 by Eckhart Tolle. He gives you the tools you need to help you take control of your thoughts. I didn 8767 t realize how powerful my thoughts were, and how they were driving me nuts! One of the secrets is stop and listen to the mind as it talks, and it will go away
Jay: Alright gays?
Neil: How''s your ear Jay?
Jay: Perfect, that''s why I''ve got to wear this massive bandage.
Neil: Oh, I suppose that''s your modelling career fucked then.
Will: He never had a modelling career!
Jay: Yeah but I''m not bothered, cos I fucked the nurse that looked after me.
Will: The St. Johns Ambulance lady?
Simon: Isn''t she Warren Duncan''s nan?
Jay: No there was another one who looked like Lucy Pinder.
Will: Course there was.
My name is Alyshia. I am currently 66 years old, I know I am and I am not experienced wnough to know love yet. But I have dared this guy name Damien for 8 years. We broke February 68th. Because he decided to get back with his ex. He has two kids by her. Damien is nothing but 67. I am hurt my 8 years with this jerk and he ups and leaves me for someone who trashed mom 8767 s house and killed his animals and threatened to kill his kids. He use to beat on me that 8767 s why we broke it off. When I called the police on him he swore he would kill me. I have been hiding behind the shadows ever since. But I am better now. we need to stop letting these men hurt us. We CAN DO SO MUCH BETTER!!
As expected, it was hard to see him knowing that I was no longer his and that it was over for good. I didn 8767 t completely get the answers I wanted, but have to learn to accept that feelings fade, it takes two to make it work, and that I shouldn 8767 t just blame myself (even though I continue to do so sometimes). I wanted to leave on a good note with him because I didn 8767 t want any negativity between us or in my life in general. I just wanted to say my peace and let things go.
Jay: Alright Yves Saint Leponce what''s going on here then?
Simon: Neil''s getting me in shit.
Neil: They''ve put a curtain up so we can''t see the clunge, it''stotally sexist
Jay: Ahh the craft fuckers, they tried this when we did the school play, we just cut a hole in the curtain and stuck our knobs through it, it was well horny, we was getting noshed off in between scenes.
Neil: Are we gonna have to swim back?
Simon: It''s very cold in there.
Jay: Just row back, on holiday in Spain one year me and my mate took a pedalo out and went to Africa.
Will: Do you think you can spare us the bullshit, for one minute, while I try to figure out how not to die at sea.
Let go of all your aggresive feelings towards her it will never help in healing your heart, my ex-husband lie to me in every single thing every single thing and who can lie to you about small things will never be honest even about their feelings, think of it in this way at least you did you best in this relation you were loyal and honest with her, but she missed up so she is the one who lost you as a person not you. Move on and remeber one thing what doesnt kill you just make you stronger.
My boyfriend (and first love) broke up with me after two years of dating and many wonderful memories. He dumped me because he began hanging out with drug users and picked pot over me.. he completely changed in about a month. Now he 8767 s heartless and says he try 8767 s to care but doesn 8767 t. The hardest part is the fact that he doesn 8767 t care and has no worries, while I 8767 m laying here hoping to read success stories online and feel better.
u are welcome Eddie this is my small contribution to this site..And in a way thanking u for bringing up this site,which is helping broken hearts These made no sense when i read it before break now it makes lots of sense to me All these words about life and ur website lifted me up and showed me the path to get back to i dont blame my ex rather i thank her giving this opportunity to go through this made me realize what i am and whats my thank god for lifting me up through never thought i will get over that horrible pain i almost felt it is end of my life..guys,life is beautifull please say it urself and live everymoment jsut enjoy the difference in u after 7-8 for those who are troubled with why and how i just wanna say PEOPLE CHANGE,THINGS GO WRONG,SHIT HAPPENS BUT LIFE MOVES ONE .take care everyone.
Well I have a similar story to these, but I didn 8767 t come here for me. I was researching stuff to help a friend out. You know stuff like quotes and images to make her feel better. Shes been doing great thanks to some of these quotes. And I would like to say that anybody who has suffered through a bad break up should look for a friends help. Unfortunately when I went through my break up I was alone, no friend was there to help. Luckily I learned quick to live with out her, and now I can continue without fear. Not a lot of people come out great as I did, and after several years they keep suffering for their lost love. Just like my friend here. It 8767 s been years since she lost her love and thanks to my help she 8767 s been doing better and learning to let go. What I learned is that keeping it inside isn 8767 t doing any good reading post from other people who suffered too doesn 8767 t help as much as a friend could. I 8767 m not saying its a waste of time or something like that but instead I 8767 m saying look for more help, look for a friend.
8775 An American neuroscientist named Larry of the Emory University School of Medicine, is operating under the theory that love is a chemical state like any other, and can be controlled as such. His research into prairie voles has shown that lifelong mating can be triggered, prolonged or even blocked by altering the level of certain chemicals in their brains. By injecting various levels of oxytocin into a female prairie vole’s brain, was able to get the animal–a notoriously, fiercely monogamous creature–to immediately drop her current lifelong mate and bond, just as permanently, to the nearest male instead. In addition to officially using science for the saddest thing ever (crushing the hearts of adorable rodents), has also stumbled onto something potentially world-changing, because oxytocin has already shown similar effects in human patients. 8776