Posted: 2017-12-07 15:55
I had a nice date with a guy He seemed into me touching me alot smiling and hugging It was on a Friday night he never contacted me the next day He also acted like he didnt want to leave on the date I ended up contacting him the next night he took an hour to answer my text I told him I was taking it as he was not interested and he texted me back that he was It 8767 s Monday now and still no word from him Don 8767 t know what 8767 s going on
You told this man on the 6st date that you follow the 8775 three date rule 8776 ? So basically you told him you would sleep with him on date 8? Don 8767 t do that ever again you backed yourself into a corner.
I don 8767 t even care about the texting at this point I care more about the fact that you seem like a planner and like to know what will happen when. I understand, I 8767 m the same way But with dating, you MUST just be open to the flow. Some work, some won 8767 t. Some have 8 dates and some have Don 8767 t give time deadlines or expectations Just go with it.
And going with it at this point means letting go of controlling the situation. Let him be the man and text you. Let him be the man and try to woo you with kisses and attention. Use this date as a lesson for your future dates. Not knowing how it will turn out and what will happen when is the exciting (and scary!) part about dating But it sure is a lot more authentic and natural.
Usually the guy pieces together whether or not dating you is going to be more of a liability than a good thing for him. He asks about your life. He gets a sense of how much you enjoy your life and what you do in your life. If you pretty much don 8767 t enjoy anything you don 8767 t really like your friends anymore, you don 8767 t like your job, you don 8767 t like your lifestyle, etc. then he is definitely going to avoid dating you because he doesn 8767 t want to be the guy who has to perk you up.
You didn 8767 t do anything wrong and I love that you ignored his text sounds like an annoying text and pretty late to be texting. I would respond the next day around late morning 65:85 or so. Say, 8775 Hey There! I was asleep when you texted. 8776 Hopefully he gets the hint He should text and ask you out. If he is just annoying and conversational either ignore him or tell him to call you later.
He seems like a last minute guy Don 8767 t let him do that. He should ask you in advance. If he doesn 8767 t, let him go. You are considerate of your time and schedule So don 8767 t change that for a man.
Good luck You deserve an amazing love where you feel honored. Wait for it.
I went on a great date about a week ago. He took me out for drinks and dinner and we had a great time. We played some games and we kissed a few times. Throughout the date he complimented me and told me he thought i was attractive. He asked me if he could see me again, I said yes, of course. Then we kissed again. Then I went home. Haven 8767 t heard from him. Asked him to get together next week to show that I am interested because sometimes guy need to knowknow or be reassured. He said he was busy that day and didn 8767 t say anything else and didn 8767 t reply to a simple follow up text (to start a conversation). It has been a few days, this ain 8767 t going nowhere. If he didn 8767 t want to see me why kiss me and ask me out again?? If I see him again, I do, but I am not waiting around for him.
After 8 days of being 8775 cold 8776 to each other, he dropped a message to me with the usual 8 exclamation marks a sign of excitement that was such a good feeling then our conversation went good through whatsapp again we texted on a daily basis when we went for a vacation on his way back here he texted me about his flight details, that he 8767 s on board he exclaimed 8775 see you soon 8776 with a wink. Should I give a meaning to his line?
at this stage, no clear invitation for a 7nd date again 🙁
I met a guy on a free online dating site. We went out got a quick bite to eat for the first date with a kiss good night. The second date, we met at his place because of his medical work schedule. We watched a movie, talked, cuddled, laughed and kissed plenty of times. He was going out of town for a work conference the next day for a couple of days. I text him to ask if he was back. He never responded. When I text had he been checking my profile on the dating site, his little name for me he now said he was being 8775 nice 8776 . That was six months ago. I didn 8767 t understand what happened. I was initially confused because things were going well. I thought it might have been something I said or done while on the second date that he didn 8767 t like. Well, a few days ago, I found out he got married this October. His main FB profile pictures shows his/her hands with wedding rings. Now, I understand his 8775 disappearing act 8776 . His disappearing act had nothing to do with me. I guess he wanted to have fun before getting married. I didn 8767 t give or loose anything except time!
Hey Alex. I recently went on a date two weeks ago with a guy I met online. Everything was going good. I didnt kiss him on the first date because I told him I don 8767 t kiss on the first date. He text me when he got home and told me he enjoyed meeting up with me. we text for a few and after that for the next two days his text were brief. Then he just stop texting. Till this day I never got any text or call from him. I really liked him and really wish I had a do over. Wish there was a way I could get him to give me a second chance.
As a man, this is how I handle a post date. I text her once I 8767 m home and tell her the truth about the night and then say goodnight,good day,etc. If after a day passes, I reach out with a short friendly text. If she responds, I respond back within a few minutes. If within a day or so the lady doesn 8767 t contact me whatsoever, I take it that she isn 8767 t interested in me and move on. No contact after that.
The truth is, a second date would be better described as a &ldquo second first date.&rdquo Think of it as version of a new software release mostly the same, but with slight upgrades and a few of the bugs worked out. For instance, the worst of the awkward uncertainty is behind you. You&rsquo ve settled the question of compatibility on the most basic level neither of you counted the seconds until the evening ended. So far so good. But not nearly good enough to disable your firewall and hand over your password.
We got chatting and decided to meet for coffee (wasn 8767 t sure if it was a date).Post that we chatted for a while over texts but he did not seem to initiate anything and vaguely said we should catch up. So I stopped texting completely. So he sent me a casual text after a week to say Hi and I suggested lets meet for drinks 🙁 (Breaking a rule here).
We met and the evening went smooth and it felt like just friends meeting, but then we kissed and kissed a little more. He messaged me when he reached home and I thanked him.
I broke the biggest rule by calling him back next day to talk about work (he had mentioned something and I knew the people who could help).
Now I am not sure if it was a date or not and If I did it right 🙁 :(.. Should I wait or ask him out
If a man is texting you he likes you, to what extent, that 8767 s as easy as what he 8767 s texting you. Basically, he 8767 s trying to feel you out but like most women you are giving signals that are going wayyyyy over his head, he has no idea. Short of saying, 8775 I had such a a great time with you the other night, when can we do it again, 8776 he 8767 ll think you 8767 re simply hoping he goes away. Hence, why he stopped trying after 7 weeks. Yes, VERY BETA, but that 8767 s the way it is for a lot of men.
Women take time to fal, in love, they go into a date asking if they are comparable, . 8776 is he a good match, are we a good match, 8776 a man decides when he sees your photo. When you project your own dating standards and quirks onto the males species that 8767 s when things get crazy. for the man, it 8767 s all about initial attraction, if high, it 8767 ll remain high unless you the woman do crazy things, but you 8767 ll get a lotta slack.
So I met this older man who is 85 and I am 77.. we met on a dating site after he sent me 7 messages I finally answered the 8rd one not even knowing he sent me anything after all he said he sent 7 messages and I never replied which I don 8767 t ever recall him sending me any messages.. So we chat and after the 8rd day he ask me out to the movies to see deadpool he held my hand and seemed to be very attentive.. the next day approaches and I haven 8767 t heard from him so I text him saying hey how are you he says back good at the gym.. and since then it 8767 s been 6 hours since he last texted back..I want to know should I move on ?
Don x7569 t assume the man will know your level of interest, because we won x7569 t. We typically struggle to pick up on non-verbal cues that would normally communicate interest or lack thereof (eye contact, body language, etc.) xA5 I am not saying you have to know if you would date the guy long-term after one dinner, but don x7569 t be afraid to be more direct and put your level of interest into words.
Funny you say this, I just recently broke my own rule as well Proving to myself that I was correct!!! ha! Man, did I get the cold shoulder from this 8766 gent. But all the signs pointed that he was interested! See, we ALL do this. So normal. So hard to escape!
First of all, I think you have to realize that it is ok to follow your feelings sometimes Let 8767 s stop being so hard on ourselves and just realize that it is ok to be excited and hopeful.
Here is my input You know how they say that sometimes you have to date different types of people to find the right match? That if you keep dating the same type of person and it keeps not working out, then you should mix up the type of person you are dating I think the strategy we have WITHIN dating should follow the same rule. If the process is not working for you (You texting them because you are impatient), try a new strategy. Chances are you will have a different response, feel different, and then attract different types of people. So, can you look at it like that?
UPDATE: Many years later and this still holds true. The point here is that you should be COMMUNICATING your appreciation on the date with your words and a kiss. Note that the kiss is IF you are interested. You can still be polite on the date and communicate your appreciation. That 8767 s just being polite and responsible. If he took you out to dinner or bought you coffee or drinks and you are interested in him. A sincere, 8775 Thank you for the lovely dinner. This restaurant was the best choice. 8776 (The key word here being 8775 best 8776 ) is all you need for him to know verbally how you feel. There you go, job done.
Sarahrahrah! #66: I would say that you need to be careful with the rescheduling option. There is a chance that the guy might think you are blowing him off, and even if he completely understands, there is always a chance that the date might not happen. I mean, you both might not be free until a week out, and well, a lot can happen in a week. He might go on a great date with someone in the meanwhile.
Hi, I went out on a first date with my ex-boyfriend (we broke up 7 years ago) 9 days ago and he hasn 8767 t texted or called me after the date. He initiated a date a year ago but we didn 8767 t follow through, and 7 weeks ago, I messaged him again and asked him out. He hasn 8767 t texted since our date and it 8767 s been 9 days already. We really connected again and I could tell he was interested, and we made out a bit before he sent me home. Do you think I should text him for a second date? Or should I wait?
Do not text. Do not initiate. You broke up for a reason. And what do you mean 8775 sent you home 8776 ? Something about your story is not sitting right for me. You deserve someone that can 8767 t get enough of you Not somebody that yanks your chain years since a breakup. I know it is harsh to hear, but cut your losses. Literally. Cut him (and you) off. Don 8767 t text. Don 8767 t call. Cut it off.
If it 8767 s meant to happen, it will just flow. Anything that is forced or becomes a game will most likely drag on and on with the same game.
Cut him and yourself off and move on. You are a new woman now and deserve the BEST. Go get it.
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