Posted: 2017-12-08 00:11
takes two to tango 8766 confirmed bachelor 8767 , won 8767 t don 8767 t divorce men for no reason. he must have been annoying to live with or wasn 8767 t willing to put in much effort. i 8767 ve been married twice and boy what a challenge living with a man is. i now understand why so many women become cat women at least cats know how to clean themselves! and don 8767 t make as much noise. no idea why men turn into babies after marriage do they think its cute? or clever? or just their God given right??
A 8767 s a man in his mid 55 8767 s dating a woman in her mid 85 8767 s, I will tell you the reason.
There years ago I became single, I had this woman around my age who was very keen to go out with me. I told her Ilike her but I have one rule, that is we split the bill on the first date. She quickly told me she expects a man to pay for her & threatened to find another man willing to pay. For the next few weeks she was still hinting she like me but she would not bend on her sexist issue of self entitlement. I told her if she don 8767 t meet me half way, then she would be waiting a long time
Next week I asked this girl out who was 75 years than me & I told her that I expect a woman to meet me half way on a date. She agreed & we split the bill. On the second daterm she asked me out & paid for me. On the third date I paid for her & on the 9th date we had hot sex.
Three years later we are still together & I never had to put up with these sexist game 8767 s the woman in her mid 55s came up with.
I would never go out with an old woman again, they are to sexist.
Looking around women are doing pretty well for themselves without the guys, and the guys are a train wreck. Does this mean it 8767 s easier for men and they can take their pick? No it means even good men have to make compromises because so many of us girls have got jack of it all and taken ourselves off the market to focus on things that (unlike dating) are rewarding. The population numbers may favour the guys slightly but it doesn 8767 t mean those women are available, especially if they have children and have prioritized them (or from the other side of the fence as I 8767 ve heard charming men say of single/divorced mothers 8775 I 8767 d f*** it, I wouldn 8767 t marry it 8776 ) the actual pool of eligable women (who want to date and who men also apparently consider datable) is very small. It 8767 s still men who blow up womens inboxes and chase because in spite of their cocky attitude they still have to.
Can your spell caster shrink my penis for me? It 8767 s too large, and affects both my professional and my love life.
All I want is to have a normal, 7-inch penis, not this damn meaty baseball bat I 8767 m constantly lugging around with me :/
Furthermore, it 8767 s attracting the wrong kinds of females. I just want to settle down with a nice, respectable lady with a tight pussayyyy.
But instead I have all these shallow bitches round my dick and it 8767 s ruining my life.
Please help me, Dr Osibeme
I realise I could have avoided all of this by not continuing
the initial involvement once I realised the lack of sexual attraction. A more
certain man surely would have. I realise also I have behaved in a way few would tolerate for long. I haven 8767 t covered myself
in glory. I must also admit to sending a final validation text. Confessing that
she was right. I hadn 8767 t fulfilled my side of the bargain. That she deserved
My ex has been nasty to me for sixth months. He has called me ugly, played mind games with me and try 8767 s to flaunt his new girlfriend at me. All of a sudden after his girlfriend moved (they are still together) he started acting funny, at first I thought oh it 8767 s because of her but I walked into our mutual friends house and he was laughing a joking but as soon as I went in that room he sat down and was quite for the whole evening. On the same night he would also gaze/ stare at me and as soon as I caught his attention he would look away. He try 8767 s to avoid eye contact and will avoid me at every possible opportunity, what is he thinking or doing? He was fine until she left and all of a sudden it 8767 s like he has cracked I don 8767 t know why he is doing it, he is with this girl and everyone is telling me they are the most socially awkward couple ever and they don 8767 t do anything. I 8767 m so confused and the break up was bad anyway he didn 8767 t give me any reasons or anything he just freaked out I really don 8767 t know what 8767 s going on and I need piece of mind please help.
If she was dissastisfied, she was probably mulling over breaking up with you, consciously or unconsciously, for quite some time. This gives her a perceived head start in recovering after the breakup. I 8767 ve corroborated this view by talking to many women who went through a similar experience as the initiator of the breakup. I also had a client who experienced something similar recently and was able to talk to his ex about it. Here 8767 s what he said:
Both of are families knew how much we loved each other and my family got on with her really well and they made her feel part of the family and loved..just like the way her family was to me they would always ask about me and always tell her how much of a lovely lad I was and how lucky she was! Even her little cousins, Nan, aunties etc loved me and her older brothers (my age) did as well and would ask about me and when I was next going down to a family event or when they where next going to see me 🙂
All my friends got to like her and they all got on with her and even considered her a good friend and part of the group ..again the same with me and her friends we all got along and they would all tell how much she loved me and my friends would do the same.
My is still at university and has chosen to take a marathon runner 8767 s approach to completing what will be 8 years of study to culminate in his PhD. So I feel free of any responsibilities of children even though I know that I have some 8775 power freeloaders 8776 still living at home with me. They are not charged rent per-se but they do know that they must fend for themselves when it comes to personal supplies and that their 8775 rent 8776 is to shop for, prepare and serve one evening meal a week for the entire household. (Some weeks I have slackers for varying reasons but on balance they do what is expected of them they are good house mates!) They are a pleasure to be around and not a burden even though I sometimes get ticked off when I feel one of them is not pulling their weight as they ought to.
Eventually, I got fed up and started demanding. Within a month or two, she had checked out and left. Was on online dating the day after she moved out, her furniture was still here. Thinking about the little girl, I let her store stuff here so she could move out and be independent, I wanted to keep in contact with the little girl after all those years and encouraged her to date, but just to not move too fast.
Well I am a widower of just over 65 months and age 57. I have yet to go on a date as I have not felt comfortable with the prospects of getting out there in the marketplace so to speak. I have set my age appropriate limits of 57 67. I am currently getting mixed signals from my children (ages 76 and 79) about the efficacy of my dating, one is for my happiness and the other has stated in no uncertain terms that 8775 you and Mom did not get a divorce so you can 8767 t date 8776 .
We got engaged before all this started happening and we found out she was pregnant a month gone (we both sort of guessed about the first couple of weeks due to the way she was feeling etc) but we both sat down and discussed what we was going to do and both decided we wanted the baby and where both the over moon about it after that all we ever talked about was the baby and us been a family (even decided on names and even started looking at baby clothes ect) we was that happy she told all her family and friends and they was all over the moon for use just like my friends and family as well, she was even going to put uni back a year so she could be there for the baby and are family.
The Truth Teller..it is sad that we women can 8767 t find decent men because the lot of us are judged as you have described. I work to support myself so I am not looking for money. I am looking for a kind, loving partner. As long as he can support himself and is happy with what he does, that 8767 s fine by me. From a man I expect a little chivalry and a lot of respect. Take me out and give me flowers once in a while. That doesn 8767 t mean he has to be rich. I 8767 ve been in love with several men who were not loaded with money. That didn 8767 t matter to me because I judge by what is inside a man, not by what he owns.
Double bingo !!
And even if you find someone that wants to date you , after one date they already start implying sexual stuff.
I’m no prude , but I am sorry I’m attracted to ones inside and mind. That takes time. Sorry no I don’t want to snuggle up to you watching a movie cause we had one decent date. I will need to develop feelings for you. Is that too much to ask for ? To have feelings before you get all touchy feely with me ?
Well with most women unfortunately today being so very high maintenance, independent, selfish, spoiled, greedy, picky, and very money hungry, well that will make it very hard for many of us good men to really meet a woman that isn 8767 t like that at all now. Most women today will really want the best of all which they will never settle for less either since most of these women are always looking for men with money anyway.
I had a similar one. I was together with my ex-husband for a total of 69 yrs, 66 yrs married. I was a loyal, caring wife believing we 8767 d be together until old age. He cheated on me more than once and I stupidly kept him in my life until he finally wanted out. I did not want kids and he was ok with that until he had a midlife crisis. Then he wanted a divorce so he could go on to have his own kids. Even that was a lie because he married someone soon after the divorce and she had older children. She never gave him a baby, and it turns out he 8767 d been in contact with her for years while he and I were married. I also supported him through years of school so he could make a good life for us. After all the degrees he attained he felt I was not good enough for him anymore. I don 8767 t think the new wife is either. I found him online a year after he remarried looking for some action on the side.
8 weeks later my company calls me back in to my surprise. I couldn t wait to see his face. I missed our connection like crazy. I FOUND OUT HE QUIT! I went in there and he was gone. I was so heartbroken. I texted him telling him i was back and what happen to him. He seemed so depressed in our texting when i was talking to him about it. after 9 years of him being there. Why would he quit. The weeks passed, and working there became very depressing, it was like the light was sucked out of that place. I knew i just couldnt work there a second longer without his face to stare at. So i then quit the job myself.
I haven 8767 t even touched upon the financial meat grinder awaiting hapless husbands in divorce court. The system is designed to extract the maximum amount of money from men, even though the majority of women work (many now earn more than their husbands). He stands to lose the house, the children and most of his income. Talk about playing Russian Roulette. A woman must practically be a serial killer before the court will award child custody to the father. Is it any wonder that men are increasingly unwilling to sacrifice themselves on the altar of matrimony?
The Central Scrutinizer I can understand your resentment. What you 8767 ve said makes sense to me. And not to knock California, because I think it is a beautiful and dynamic state, I have seen and heard about what people 8767 s expectations generally are who live there. I have friends and family out there who have told me pretty much the same thing. It 8767 s that CA/Hollywood mentality. Not sure if many people there really deal with reality. I get why you are so frustrated.
My ex husband and I divorced about a year ago. Since then we have continually seen each other and been intimate. Things are good between us and I feel like we could definitely be together happily. I feel the divorce was too abrupt and should 8767 ve never been done in the first place. Emotions were high at the time I guess you could say. Anyways, now he says he 8775 can 8767 t commit 8776 yet all of his actions are contradicting. He says he wants to be friends but everything we do are things 8775 friends 8776 don 8767 t do. I 8767 m totally confused. I know he 8767 s scared of getting back together out of fear that we won 8767 t work out but why is he saying one thing yet doing another? We are the best of friends and totally into each other. I 8767 m at a loss.